As believed by many people, many Chinese parents hold that strict parenting is a decisive factor in helping their children succeed. However, I believe that children nowadays are burdened with too many rules and that strict rules don’t necessarily ensure a quick path to success.
Firstly, family rules and expectation imposed on children are often somewhat too pressing. Chinese education normally requires students to follow a standardized path to college graduation, suggesting drop-outs or occasional absence from classes are not to be tolerated. Parents, therefore, often demand students to follow the social conventions and not to violate any rules. Any deviation from the expectation is deemed to fail without question. However, the truth is that many successful people like Bill Gates and Steve Jobs rose to fame and success without completing their college curriculum. Strict rules may help children be better disciplined and guided, but is not an indispensable key to open the door of success.
Secondly, strict rules may play a negative role if not properly practiced. Children, especially those in their adolescent years, often needs more freedom and given more space and their own choices. Guidance and advices from parents should be given, but mandatory and strict rules can easily invite resistance. Many family conflicts results from ineffective communication and strict parenting, even if the purpose of which are often well-intended and to help children to be successful. The negative effect may also include impaired creativity that children suffer from. Long have kids been told about what should they do and what they must not do, children raised with so many rules around them often turn out to be unimaginative and be deprived of innovative thinking. Therefore, strict rules on children may very likely to have the adverse influence on their future career and personal development.
I would like to say that in order to achieve success, rules are necessary to help children build a good sense of moral value and self-discipline, but strict rules may have the quite opposite effect.