When we are young, our life is simple and easy, the most worries for us is which lollipop should be saved to the last or how to win a matchbox from a friend. But when growing up, we have to face a brunch of complicated situations, job application, career choice, office rivalship and love relation, choices can never be as clear as to choose A or B on a test paper. Immersed in hardship, we hunger for useful advice, which mostly from older friends rather than from peers.
There’s no doubt that elders have more living experience than young people, which means a difficult situation you face for the first time may be an easy cake for them. Career choice is one dilemma young people face when they graduate from a university. Assuming that two job offers are in front, one is from a big joint venture but the salary is relatively low, the other is from a small private firm, while the position and salary they offered is much tempting. As a green finger, young man may take the second offer due to vanity, but if he can consult with elders, he can realize the risk in choosing a small private company, as when the whole industry goes downtown, small businesses are certain to die out. Advice from the older friend usually leads to a good consequence.
Another difficult situation most young people have to face is love relation. When hormone plays a leading role in a love relation, young people may ignore education degree, family background and social hierarchy. However, will the relation remain stable? Frankly speaking, my answer is a definite “no”. Appearance determines the formation of a love relationship, but whether these two persons have common topics, close concepts and similar values decides whether their relationship can last long and healthy. In this situation, counsels from the elder may calm your fever and guide you a direct relation.
Suggestion from older people may sound out of date or too realistic to accept in some way, but I do believe what they experienced can benefit young people, just like an ancient proverb, “who will not ruled by the rudder must be ruled by the rock.”